One of the
things which drew me to you so strongly was your '78 Weeks of Tarot' project on
Facebook. You seem to have a real knack for choosing highly appropriate images
and quotes to give in-depth definitions for each card. What have you enjoyed
most about this project?
Nicole: Thank you! I am having an absolute blast with 78 Weeks of Tarot! I
think the most fun thing about it for me is really in the search. That
moment when I find the essence of the card, or my understanding of it, at
least. Also, it's a legitimate reason to be spending time on
Pinterest! Sometimes finding appropriate graphics is a real challenge and at others I
stumble over perfect quotes when I'm not even looking for them. When I
find myself struggling with a particular card, it's also an invitation to ask
myself how deeply I understand the card itself and if I'm missing anything
about it. At that point, it's time for me to spend more time with that
card, look where it's shown up in past readings, see how other readers
interpret it, ask myself what kind of story it's telling. Once I feel
like I understand it better, then I can go back to Pinterest and poke around
and see what fits.
Which card most accurately describes your personal reading style and why?
Nicole: I
really do feel that I embody the Queen of Cups when I'm reading as well as in
other areas of my life (or strive to). I have always been the confidant
of friends and acquaintances; I've always been the secret keeper you could rely
on not to judge. I'm often told, "You're the only person I can tell
this to." And really what I do best is listen and understand.
My friends usually come to a conclusion or make their decisions all on their
own. I think it's really important that a tarot reading inspires self-reflection.
I'm not here to give you all the answers; I don't have them! I'm here to
help you find them for yourself, to set you down the right road.
Sometimes all we need is a sounding board or a place to lay everything down, to
get it out of our minds and into the open so we can examine it in a new
light. And of course, we need a friend with perhaps a broader view who
can point out patterns and inconsistencies that we would miss on our own.
That friend is me, and that's exactly the way I use tarot.
The
Queen of Cups' two most distinguishing characteristics are her intuition and
her compassion. Intuition allows me to see the larger picture, gives me
that broader view that enables me to give my clients the insight and clarity
they're searching for. It also helps me to read between the lines, to
infer information that hasn't been volunteered. And my compassion creates
a safe environment for confidences and the unburdening of problems.
As the Queen of Chalices
(and as a mother of two) I'm a nurturer. I am emotionally invested in
every reading I give. While I don't consider myself an empath, I do
definitely make that emotional connection with my querants, and that's
important to me. I myself have a need to take care of people. It
can actually be annoying at times for the people closest to me, as I can be
somewhat of a mother hen. But it's a quality that allows me to focus on
what's going to be best for the client and without passing judgment. As a
tarot reader, I think it's important to keep your judgments to yourself.
Better yet, come from a place of compassion and have no judgments. My job
is to provide helpful insight and support, not to condemn, even if I do need to
point out some self-limiting or destructive behavior and patterns.
So the Queen of Cups is who I identify most closely with, but I also like to think I have the sass of the Queen of Wands, and deliver truth like the Queen of Swords!
So the Queen of Cups is who I identify most closely with, but I also like to think I have the sass of the Queen of Wands, and deliver truth like the Queen of Swords!
When did you start offering Tarot readings as an online business and was it a big decision for you?
Nicole: I officially started offering readings for payment some time in January. I wouldn't say the decision was terribly difficult at the time because I wasn't expecting any clients! I had put a few listings up on ebay after getting consistent positive feedback reading for free on Tumblr. To be honest, I was totally winging it. It was more of an experiment to see if there would be any interest. I wanted to expand my own experiences, which were limited to my small number of followers at that time.
It
wasn't until my first paying client made a request that I started to question
my decision. Was I good enough for this? What right did I have, as
a newbie reader, to request payment (no matter how little)? What if all
of the feedback I'd gotten before was really just my small community being
polite and encouraging? I made myself really nervous with these
questions. I did the reading and got great feedback from the client, but
I still had to question whether or not I was actually ready for this, and I did
for months afterwards. I had a few other clients from eBay, but I let the
listings expire and didn't re-list them.
So I continued giving
readings on Tumblr, with the option to give donations or leave tips, and I
listed options for purchasing readings on my blog, which hardly anybody read,
but I could easily share the link if someone was in need of a larger spread or
more of my time.
My
practice hasn't changed very much since then. I've listed more spread
options on my blog and I've been much more open about being available for
larger readings than the mini ones I often give freely. I also signed up
with Keen and log in whenever I am available. I am slowly learning more
about the business of having a business, and I'm making progress slowly.
More importantly, however, I now have the self-confidence to know that tarot as
a business is definitely the right decision for me. I have been able to
reach so many people. I know I'm making a difference for them, I know
I've helped them untangle their problems, and it is so much more fulfilling
than any other job I've held.
Which three key pieces of advice would you give to fellow readers on how to give a positive, nurturing reading?
Nicole: Positive readings have very little to do with the actual cards that comprise them. The most important thing is how the client feels after the reading. Three things I always make sure to do:
I
mentioned before about being emotionally invested in every reading I
give. It's important to actually care about the client's situation, but
it is equally important to maintain some professional detachment. There's
a balance that needs to be found so that you don't find yourself shielding your
client from the worst or giving them an over exaggerated sense of hope or
encouragement. Maintain your outsider's perspective. You are not
there to agree with everything your client says or commiserate with them.
Your job is to help them see the things they've missed.
Don't sugar-coat bad news. Your client has a right to know the full truth, even if it's not a very happy one. Delivery here is key, and it's going to vary based on the individual. Do they need to you gently break it to them, with reminders that their hardships are preparing them for better experiences ahead? Would it be helpful to point out the best course of action they can take to avoid or lessen the blow of the situation (usually by pointing out other cards in the spread)? Or do they need you to be blunt and direct, giving them a much needed wake-up call? Everyone handles hardships differently, they respond to negativity differently. It's going to be up to you to decide which method is going to get the message through in the most effective and constructive way. Even if that means you do have to break out your Queen of Swords persona and dole out some tough love.
Don't sugar-coat bad news. Your client has a right to know the full truth, even if it's not a very happy one. Delivery here is key, and it's going to vary based on the individual. Do they need to you gently break it to them, with reminders that their hardships are preparing them for better experiences ahead? Would it be helpful to point out the best course of action they can take to avoid or lessen the blow of the situation (usually by pointing out other cards in the spread)? Or do they need you to be blunt and direct, giving them a much needed wake-up call? Everyone handles hardships differently, they respond to negativity differently. It's going to be up to you to decide which method is going to get the message through in the most effective and constructive way. Even if that means you do have to break out your Queen of Swords persona and dole out some tough love.
Be available after the
reading. I think this is especially important for those of us who give
readings by email. Invite your clients to contact you if they have any
questions or wanted to discuss anything at all about the reading. And if
they don't take you up on that offer, email them to check up in a week or
so. Let them know that they are more than a transaction. Follow up
is key in building client relationships.
Do you have any big plans and hopes for the future of Queen of Chalices and your personal Tarot journey?
Nicole: I'm so happy you've asked me this question, because I am working on a project that, while still very much in the baby idea stage, is very exciting for me! I've teamed up with two absolutely wonderful women and our goal is to build a website, a central hub for three distinct personalities with different reading styles to come together and collaborate. We'll each offer our individual services, but we'll also be working together to bring some super fun stuff for our readers and clients. I don't want to say too much right now as we're still in the initial planning stages, but I feel like it's going to be a bold and decisive step for all three of us.
Nicole: I'm so happy you've asked me this question, because I am working on a project that, while still very much in the baby idea stage, is very exciting for me! I've teamed up with two absolutely wonderful women and our goal is to build a website, a central hub for three distinct personalities with different reading styles to come together and collaborate. We'll each offer our individual services, but we'll also be working together to bring some super fun stuff for our readers and clients. I don't want to say too much right now as we're still in the initial planning stages, but I feel like it's going to be a bold and decisive step for all three of us.
Thanks for stepping into the Tarot Spotlight,
Nicole!
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Keep doing the Tarot thing, honeybunnies!
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